For Mothers who have lost a Child
Unless you have experienced this, you really don’t know what it is like. People have said to me, ‘I understand what you must be going through’, how can they. So many comments that made me feel so angry at how insensitive people could be.
If you have lost a child and would like to post your comments below, please feel free to do so. You are not alone in your grief but we all have a different sad story to tell and a different way of coping with it.
You Need Support
Grief is a very lonely place and you need to find support through friends and family who can offer you comfort, help and support. My family were very supportive in the beginning although they didn’t understand what I was going through. Six years on and my family offer no support at all, they think the death of my son is something in the past and its all forgotten. The death of your child never leaves you, you never forget and is never forgotten.
Today is the 6th year anniversary of my sons death and I haven’t had any contact from my family at all. That means they haven’t even remembered what day it is let alone send me a message of comfort. My husband is very understanding, he always knows what anniversary is coming up and how I might respond to it, he pr-empts most things!
I often wonder why the world didn’t stop when Sean died because everything seemed to carry on as normal and it seemed very strange to me. I wanted the world to stop so I could get off because I didn’t want to carry on as normal, as if nothing had happened. My world had collapsed and didn’t want to carry on living. I still have days where I want to die, to be with Sean and not live in this world anymore.
Coping with grief is unique to each one of us and we will all do something completely different to deal with it. My coping mechanism is to be busy, busy, busy. I feel if my mind is busy I can’t think about anything that will make me cry. But this doesn’t serve me well because I am running myself ragged and wearing myself out so I have to find another way of dealing with Sean’s death.
For five years I took anti-depressants and they did help, to some degree, although they really just numbed everything. Anti-depressants do not stop the pain, emptiness and sadness.
Support Is Available If You Need It
Reiki and EFT are very good therapies that can help cope with grief and you are more than welcome to book an appointment for a treatment to see if it helps you. Treatments are free to those who have lost a child, of any age. My child was 33 when he died.
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